Oh, the dynamics of relationships.
I believe each relationship to be unique, unlike any other.
If we, as individuals, are one of a kind, as couples, we merge into something completely different. Parts of each other’s personalities combined with the intrinsic changing process.
But, how do we make it work?
I am not an expert on such matters but I can tell you a thing or two about our relationship, and the reasons why it has lasted for so long.
For starters, when it comes to the two of us, I would say that Yin and Yang is one way of describing how we are connected.
Just picture a dog and a cat… hold on, better not. Your mind may drift away to one of those cute online videos about cats and dogs getting along…
We need another metaphor, a gory and visceral one.
How about a fox and a hound? Yeah, that one will do it!
There is an animated movie about a red fox and a hound dog who struggle to preserve their friendship despite their emerging instincts demanding them to be deadly opponents?
Yes, that’s right. I do remember that film from the 80s. It is adorable…
You know what? Enough with the metaphors. Just take my word for it when I say that we are truly different, my wife and I.
So, how do we make our relationship work?
Well, first of all, and this is no minor detail, we love each other deeply.
How do we know that?
Well, we have been through quite a lot as a couple, including some very tough and dark times.
It’s not been all roses.
Those specific times were a test to the boundaries of our relationship.
You truly get to know each other at a very deep and unique level.
It’s a “The Good, the bad and the Ugly” kind of situation. It causes emotional stress and it can lead, sometimes, to doubt and despair.
Being able to deal with thorns it’s a trial to true love.
We have dealt with plenty of them and that is one of the reasons why we appreciate the “roses”, those special moments when everything is just right.
Furthermore, we have learned, over the years, that communication is a key issue. No topic is taboo.
Golden rule, never go to bed without ending a discussion.
If there is something that is bothering one of us, and I mean, getting-on-your-nerves type of situation, we talk about it until we reach a decision and a consensus.
Even if it means going to bed late.
It sounds like a small thing, right?
Being able to sort things out before going to sleep, for us it makes all the difference. We do not let it go into oblivion and turn into poison, for it will if you do not deal with it pronto, believe me.
Another important aspect is that we do not take each other for granted.
We respect each other!
We pour our hearts and souls into our relationship, taking it one step at a time.
Last, but not least, do not know if I mentioned it before, but we are completely different from each other.
That way we balance each other out.
There is no such thing as perfection in a relationship. There is only the road that will lead you close to it and the journey that you both undertake.
We are traveling across the world, starting in Greece.
The journey continues and so does our relationship…